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Once we know how something turned out, our minds quietly rewrite what we thought before. Hindsight bias makes the past look more predictable than it was, and makes us harder on ourselves and others.
Defensiveness is a shield against feeling blamed, and it works against the very thing you want, which is to be understood. The way out is to feel safe enough to listen first.
Deflecting a compliment feels modest, but it quietly tells the other person they were wrong and tells yourself the good news is not allowed in. Receiving praise is a skill, and a learnable one.
Work anxiety is rarely about incompetence. It is about pressure, uncertainty and being evaluated, three things the nervous system treats as threats. You can calm the body and change the load at the same time.
